Tantra is about the cooperation between apparently conflicting parts of yourself and your relationship with others. Tantra as you’d expect for an art, science (according to some) and practice that is about the rainbow of interactions between dualities has ways to help people improve their lives. Some of these are about improving what is already good, so it becomes transcendentally great but also help the bad, the uncomfortable, the out of balance to find their place in the psychic and social ecology. In this way a battleground becomes a place of peace and harmony, where conflict becomes a source of creativity and dynamism.
How do we do this?
First step is awareness. Next step is clarifying intention, that is getting the right point of view and know where and who you would like to be. Then there is the path to change and walking it. You can only walk it if you have the feet to walk it, that is you know it’s possible to change let alone actually do the change.
Awareness starts quite simply with knowing there is a problem that needs changing or that you wish to improve your life and relationships, which may include an intense desire for enlightenment. Even the Buddha was driven by pain, so usually the latter arises out of some sort of problem. Also you need to have a clear sense of where you are who you are so that you know if the direction you want to go is right for you, and your partner.
Clarifying Intention is that you need a model, a goal for how things might be different. A strong enough reason for the change. The Buddha had a clear intention discover the source of suffering. His legend puts it in a rather dissociated way – “all suffering” not his suffering. Today we would say that he was probably driven by post-traumatic stress. He had lived in a protected home environment in wealth and privilege, with every whim catered for and no sense of limitation. Then he is shocked to discover that people are not in his world, that there is such a thing as suffering. He then proceeded to self mutilate for seven years of disciplines to fulfil his goal of understanding suffering and its cessation.
One of the Buddha’s great insights is that the sources of suffering is the duality fear and desire. Tantra’s addition or development to that is that these two are cooperative that running after one thing can be running away from something else. He also said it wasn’t enough to know that you are suffering and the sources of suffering.
Get your feet You have to know change is possible only then would find the path to change. Knowing that change is possible is the feet that allow you to walk the path to change. Whether it is to correct a problem or to improve the good to make it great.
The Path and Walking it Mindfulness is generally taught as a solo practice but Tantra is about a shared interactive mindful exchange of power through intimacy. Tantra allows that your existence is a marriage of the external and the internal, of what you embraced and what you resist through the many dimensions symbolized by the Chakras.
Who you are is the product of both what you embraced and what you resist